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Special Needs Mom: Learn When To Say No!

In our family, it is called “Pruning the Activity Tree.” Just like trees and bushes grow and need to be pruned, so does the family’s activities. This can be difficult for families like mine, who really like structure and don’t like our schedules changed. When we don’t prune our activities we overstay our welcome or outgrow it and things become awkward. I suggest you hold a family meeting once or twice a year. Decide what the family and that individual child will be able to comment to that school year or during…

Special Needs Mom: Learn to Say No!

Moms of children with special needs must have a strong No! muscle. We need to focus on ourselves, our children and family. It will help us advocate for our children. I am by nature (or family training) a people pleaser. Over the years I have learned to put up strong boundaries by applying personal filters. In today’s world it is easy to get information overload. I have used this same technique to narrow down and ask the hard questions before signing up my time and energy for anything.     Who’s responsibility is it? When someone…

A Guide to Living On One Income for Parents of Children with Special Needs

Special Needs Mom: $ How to Save Money $ We have lived ( mainly) on one income for the past 17 years. Not an easy task when we started, and even a harder task nowadays. We didn’t plan for me to stay home. We didn’t have all our ducks in a row. We didn’t have money in the bank. We were not prepared to raise a child with special needs. Don’t get me wrong. I would not trade that time with my girls for the world. Honestly, though, it was difficult. We realized very early…

Special Needs Moms Sleep With One Ear Open

Hello Sunshine! ( or maybe it should read, Good Night Sunshine!) Sleep. That one word can make us ( moms with kids with special needs) laugh. We are so sleep deprived that there doesn’t need to be a punch line, we laugh with just the one word. Special needs parenting doesn’t really lend itself to 8 hours of sleep each night. For years it felt like I slept with one ear open and alert at all times. My daughter on top of only needing 4 hours of sleep every night, and never taking naps, would often sleepwalk. Sometimes…

Celebrating The Everyday, Applying Filters for the Special Needs Mom

Have you ever had a cup of coffee that was grainy tasting? The type that when you looked into the cup you could see the coffee grains swirling around. You instantly knew that the filter didn’t work, it let the coffee grains fall through. Yuck! That is what happens when you don’t have the correct filters in your own life in place. It becomes a mess. You get tired, cranky, overwhelmed, and exhausted. You buy into the theory that if you just worked harder and faster, life would make sense. If you downloaded one more app…

Celebrating The Every Day, A Guide For The Special Needs Mom

It’s late afternoon, there is a slight breeze coming in the window and I hear my daughters soothing yoga music in the background. I watch the sunset through the window, amazed at how fast the pretty colors fade into the dark of night. How similar it is to this one awesome life that we have ~ it will fade before we know it. We get so wrapped up in what’s next? The next doctor appointments, therapy and endless amounts of paperwork. In this go-go-go mindset, we forget to treasure the everyday moments with our children…

Hibernate: The Teenage Years

Special Needs Moms Need Time To Rest Hello Sunshine! This week we are chatting about the concept of taking an extended break to allow the whole family to recharge. Hibernation.   To read the other posts in this series click below: Hibernate: A Basic Guide For The Special Needs Mom Hibernate: The Younger Years   In this post, I am going to give you a picture of how the concept of hibernation has worked for our family during the teenage years. The teenage years, well friends, I have to be honest, they can be pretty rough. Even though we are…

Hibernate: The Younger Years

Special Needs Moms Need Time To Rest Hello Sunshine! Yesterday I chatted with you about the concept of taking an extended break to allow the whole family to recharge. Hibernation. To read the first post in this series click here: Hibernate: A Basic Guide For The Special Needs Mom In this post, I am going to give you a picture of how the concept of hibernation worked for our family during the younger years. Your family is different. It may look different for your family. That’s OK, there is no one perfect way. I am here to give…

Hibernate: A Basic Guide For The Special Needs Mom

Special Needs Moms Need Time To Rest Hello Sunshine! We are almost to the end of January. Winter is just about upon us here in Central Texas. Yes, we might have had a few reasons to bring out the gloves and scarves before now, but we chalk that up to “it feels like Christmas” type of weather. Winter hits us in February around here. It brings cold, dreary days. It’s the time of year for the annual ice storm — that’s the nearest thing our kids get to a snow day. It’s…

How to Run the Race of a Special Needs Mom

Hello Sunshine! Last year my daughter started running 5k’s. Our local community has several to choose from each week, almost year around so she has plenty of races to run. Although, she has always been athletic, running ( as in learning any new sport) has had some challenging moments along the way. She had to build and use different muscles. She had to train her body to run the longer distance. These skills remind me of being a mom of a child with special needs. When our child is first diagnosed we don’t even know how to…

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